Week 5 Update

September 20, 2010 - Leave a Response

the little man is 5 weeks old today.

i can’t believe how fast time is flying by. i spend everyday, all day with nate and everyday he seems to change. his face is changing, his feature are becoming more defined and he’s totally chubbing out, filling out his tiny little body frame more and more each day. today after church we went to visit grandma and grandpa lee in oakville. while sitting on the sofa, nathan did the cutest thing, he smiled and then laughed! best part of it all, i caught it on camera!

when i see him smile, it just melts my heart. knowing that he’s content is the best feeling in the world. i wish he could just sit and smile all day long everyday!

on the downside, a month in and he’s still a little jaundice. no matter how much sun we expose him too, how many times he nurses or drinks formula, his yellowness doesn’t seem to want to go away. i’m not sure how normal this is so we’re planning on taking him to the dr’s this week. not only that, but every time he feeds he’s been getting red rash like marks on his face which goes away within minutes or hours but the fact that he’s getting them is really unsettling. his nose has been stuffy since birth and he has such a hard time dirtying his diaper. he grunts, his face turns red and sometimes he starts to cry. i’ve been told that this is normal, but seeing him struggle so much to do his business bothers me since there’s nothing i can do to sooth or help him. but he’s been dirtying 8-10 diapers a day consistantly so i know he’s getting enough to eat. at first i thought maybe he was allergic to milk so i stopped eating dairy and switched his formula to a hypoallergenic / lactose free mix. hopefully the dr’s can answer some of these questions for us this week.


Want to Kill The Romance In Your Marriage, Have A Baby…

September 17, 2010 - Leave a Response

“It is very important for new parents to set aside time for each other.”

A familiar phrase I played on repeat to every new and or soon-to-be parent out there, but now that I’m a new mum, I need to practise what I’ve been preaching. I’ve come to realize that my BABY BLUES came from the fact that my life has now changed forever. Not in a bad way, but in a different way, especially in my marriage. Within the past month, I’ve noticed that my relationship with my husband has taken a back seat to the baby and rightfully so. He’s the number 1 priority in our lives right now and I have no problem with that. What I have a problem with, is that my marriage feels like it’s dropped off the number scale and is priority non existent!

Don’t get me wrong, the hubs has been great and is making an extreme effort to do what he feels is helping me out as a newly stay at home mom with an infant. Because I can’t care for myself during the day while I’m taking care of the baby, he tries to get home early from work so he can help out around the house. He does the dishes, has no problems picking up food or things I crave, does the laundry and is great with our little guy. He’s a fantastic father, an extremely supportive husband in his own right BUT…and yes there’s a BIG but… I’m not getting what I need as a woman, as his wife.

So here lies the problem.

1.Communication. I’m home all day with a 1 month old. The extent of my communication doesn’t go beyond diapering, feeding, cutie pie talk with someone who just looks at you with blank vacant eyes. I might as well be talking to the wall. So imagine my delight when I have another adult in the room with me whom understands words, but, in my case I might as well be talking to a wall because my husband has the same blank vacant stare his son gives me. After a long day at work, I suppose “communicating” is the last thing on his mind. He just wants to fill his empty stomach and rest his heavy eyes where as I want to finally have some sort of adult interaction.

2.Date Night. Ok, we never really had date night before the baby but we did do outings which we don’t can’t do anymore without the baby. And when the baby tags along, I find myself nursing him in the backseat of the car or spending more time in the bathroom feeding and changing his diapers rather than enjoying time with my husband. We walk separately because one walks with the stroller and one will lead the way. We always have something in our hands other than each others hands, usually a diaper bag or a pacifier. Our attention is on the baby which means it’s not on each other.

3.Physical Affection. The nightly back rubs and foot rubs I used to get when I was pregnant has disappeared. Truth is, physically, I’m more tired and in more pain now, but my husband doesn’t see me waddle around with a 10 pound lump on me anymore so he doesn’t see my discomfort. When we lay down at night while the baby sleeps, all we want to do is sleep. And if we even make an attempt to cuddle, we’re quickly torn apart by a crying hungry or dirty baby. A brief kiss good bye before work is the extent of our physical affection. Not only that but the lack of sex has played a toll as well.

So what to do…what to do… the more time passes by, the more I find myself falling into a deeper depression and anger starts to build towards my husband. The once urge to find romance again is slowly being replaced by the feeling of let down and slowly I feel my white flag come out.

DIY Diaper Pad

September 17, 2010 - Leave a Response

Today stumbled across a great blog by Yellow Mums who posted on this great diaper pad created by chickpea sewing studio. I know, what’s so great about a diaper pad ~ but just take a look-see… what I love most about this diaper pad is it’s cotton lining instead of the usual vinyl wipeable pads. As convenient as wipeable pads are, my little guy hates them. He slips and slides across it whenever I change him, and the cold non-fabric rubbing against his butt really ticks him off which means I have a screaming kicking and punching baby to deal with while trying to handle his business in public.

It’s also so very cute and chic! Perfect travel diaper pad for the chic mums out there.

What do you think? Chic or Meek?


Baby Belly Jelly

September 16, 2010 - 4 Responses

Jello is great, but NOT when it’s wrapped around your waist! Someone should have warned me that my stomach would look and feel like a deflated balloon after delivery. 4 weeks in and most of my baby belly fat has disappeared, but what’s remaining really scares me. A not so little pot belly that jiggles with every giggle and skin that hangs like drapes off my waist.

Much like most new moms, I’ve been told not to exercise or do anything physically stressful until I’ve seen my doctor at my postnatal appointment and have been given the GREEN light to start working out. But I can’t wait! I need to do something, this jelly belly is killing me. If you ever want motivation to start working out, have a baby. The before image may be glowing and beautiful, but trust you me, the after image is a serious kick in the butt to hit the gym.

Happy 1 Month Nathan

September 15, 2010 - Leave a Response

1 month, where does the time go?

Nathan woke up this morning at 8am and by 9 he had spit up on me at least 3 times, soiled 3 diapers, punched me in the face and feed twice while biting and nawing on my niplles, and cried everytime I put him down for a nap! If he didn’t smile at me at the end of the hour, I would have probably cried. His smiles and coo’s melt my heart. Not the worse fuss can bring me down when he smiles at me.

Happy 1 Month Baby!